Ladies Pro Tip: Celebrate your Youness.

Jenn's recent post about women has inspired me to dedicate an entry specifically to women. And what really matters, from a male perspective. Of course, this is just *my viewpoint*, but I believe you can take away some valuable lessons here that will be applicable to quite a few males.

So here goes...

There is a HUGE difference between pretty and attractive. In my mind, pretty is something so superficial that it is barely worth noting. You look, because you are a dumb male who likes pretty, but thats about it. A minor distraction. Its similar to a date with a great person, where chemistry is lacking. You dont want more.

Attractive is not superficial, and is a very powerful thing. When you are attracted, you feel overcome to know more about the person. To meet the person. To try your best to fumble through your dumbness (aka - not melt in their presence like a pubescent wussbag). It is similar to the date that goes phenomenal ... leaving you wishing it didnt have to end.

So you might be asking ... "How do I make myself more attractive?". I cannot tell you that. Because the most powerful part of attraction comes from you celebrating and *owning* your Youness. So the specifics are completely individual, as they should be. After all - you are a beautiful, strong and unique woman ... No?

What I can tell you, are some of the things that *I* have found attractive. These are not universal, but I bet that I am not the only guy who has experienced attraction due to these things (whether he realizes it or not).

A sampling...

I love a woman that is playful and open for non-standard occurences in life. Combine this with a healthy dose of conversationalism, and you have a winner. I was once on a date with someone and our conversation turned toward a bet about odd search results on the internet. Two beats later and not only did I have her talking about donut porn, but she was also outlining the general story behind a fictitiously famous Donut Porn Movie. So strange. But so attractive. Especially when her posture remained warm, and playful.

I love a woman that is not afraid to just let loose and do something out of context. While standing outside of a bar once, I saw this cute woman talking to a group of friends. They were all laughing. And when they went inside, she did not follow. Instead, she finished eating a hot dog, and did a little dance on the sidewalk. From that moment on, she became the most *attractive* woman I saw that night. Along the same lines, I also silently reaffirmed my love for someone because after a tough week, she bust out in this strange celebratory dance (it was like some hybrid running man thing).

I love a woman that talks with her walk. I was at a conference when I saw a woman totally own the room with the way she moved through it. I instantly had to know her. I also lost some attraction towards someone because she walked hurriedly and slouched. She shuffled. And in general, you can bet that a walk is so powerful that I can hear my attraction for you in the clicks of your heels. I dont even have to see you.

I also love a woman that has a little sass, and knows how to use it.  Call me on my bull. Verbally spank me if I deserve it. And if we are playing around and I get a little sassy back to you, roll with it. Its fun. Look - I dont want someone that just sits back and takes whatever I dish at her (thats a *girl*). I want a *woman*. Be strong when the situation requires it.

I also love a woman who isnt afraid to show me her craziness. Ladies - all us men *know* you are crazy. You just cannot hide that indefinitely. And I dont want you to. I am not looking for someone who isnt crazy - that woman doesnt exist. I am looking for someone whose crazy meshes well with my crazy. Cause we are *all* crazy. In some way. About some thing. Accept it - embrace it.

And there are many other things besides these that will make me feel attraction towards you. Im attracted to a lot of different things about a lot of different women. (I cant help it, I love yall). There is just so much beauty in women.

But everything ... EVERYTHING ... really comes down to:

Celebrating your Youness.

Own it with reckless abandon. Cause it is all that you got. And chances are, when you realize and actualize this concept of you, someone somewhere will find you irrestably attractive. Love you fully.

And it just might be me.

If I am lucky ;)